Transformative Thursdays: Things that Keep You Stuck (Part 4)

Over the last few weeks, I’ve delved into “Things That Get You Stuck”.  The first one was distractions.  The second was discouragement.  The third one was delays.  And the fourth one is denials.  What happens when the final answer is “no”?  How do you rebound or recover from letting the reality of “no” sink in?  “No” can be a devastating blow when you have perceived things would happen a certain way or expected a “yes”.  At these moments, it becomes very easy to get discouraged and to get stuck because things simply went a different direction.  However, there are actions you can take to ensure you are still moving forward and not allowing the “no’s” to stifle your progress.

First of all, is the “no” a denial forever or just a denial for the moment?  You must determine if the no can become a yes later and wait for the right season.

Secondly, is the “no” spoken by someone who doesn’t have the full authority to make the decision? Perhaps there is someone else you can talk to or a different route you can take to get to the “yes”.  Look at your options and make an informed decision.

Thirdly, is the “no” simply your perception of the situation?  Is the reality really a “no”?

Fourthly, is the “no” a definitive answer from the Lord?  If so, settle it in your heart to accept the “no” but believe there is a better “yes” up ahead.  Prepare for the “yes” and do not let the “no” discourage you.  We see typically what is right in front of us and cannot see the full picture of what God sees.  He is orchestrating a good plan for our lives to set us up to win.

Next time you are faced with a piercing “no”, consider if it’s a temporary “no”, a “no” spoken without authority, your perception of a “no” or God’s “no” because something else is better.  Encourage yourself not to get stuck at a denial but to keep moving.

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~Coletta Jones Patterson

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