I read something the other day that said something along the lines of if you’re not appreciated at a table, then leave the table. Many of us have been at tables where we were undervalued, unappreciated and not celebrated. And unfortunately, we often find ourselves afraid to leave, justifying our reasons for being there, or perplexed because we want to leave but are not sure where to go. There’s freedom when we leave toxic situations and go to healthy ones.
Defining toxic environments is the first step in leaving the table. Are you being treated unfairly? Are you not being heard? Are you being overlooked? Are you being repeatedly disrespected? If so, there are always other options if we’re willing to look and be resourceful. Sometimes, it’s difficult to leave when the seat at the table has become “normal” and comfortable. But being undervalued, disrespected, overlooked and unappreciated is not what we were created for.
If you find that you need to leave the table, prepare your your departure. Choose the best option. Pray about your decision and use wisdom in choosing the right timing. Beware of those who will entice you to stay or try to dissuade you. Never belittle your gifts and talents because they are placed in you for a purpose!
~Coletta Jones Patterson
Coletta is an author, speaker, life coach and business executive who is passionate about helping others get unstuck. She hosts a weekly beyond stuck podcast and has written seven inspirational books. Connect with Coletta at firstname.lastname@example.org.