Communication is everything. In a world where there’s so much noise and opportunities, communication becomes vital. Whether it’s communicating to your spouse or communicating to a coworker, effective communication can make or break a relationship.  I like to remember three things as it relates to effective communication:

Timing – when you communicate with someone is just as important as what you say. If you choose the wrong time (I.e. when someone is already stressed or having a difficult day, it’s not the best time to lay something heavy on them). Find a good time when you can discuss an issue and make sure you allow sufficient time to discuss and hear each other’s perspectives. 

Tone – when communicating, your tone is very important. Is sarcasm in your voice? Are you angry and combative? Are you in defense mode or have you become offended? Your inner feelings will come out in your tone. Take a deep breath and think before you begin the conversation. Consider, what is the end result you want from the conversation? 

Tact – what you say is just as important as the timing and tone. Some things are better left unsaid. When deciding on what to say, think about what is necessary and what is just opinion or extra things that don’t add to the conversation. Saying what you mean and being sincere doesn’t have to come across as judgmental or in a mean manner. Think about how you would want someone to communicate the same message to you. 

These are just a few tips to help you in communicating effectively in every relationship. 

~Coletta Jones Patterson

Coletta is an author, speaker, life coach and business executive who is passionate about helping others get unstuck. She hosts a weekly beyond stuck podcast and has written seven inspirational books. Connect with Coletta at info@moveu4ward.com.