Transformative Thursdays: What’s Holding You Back?

Have you ever circled around the same mountain feeling as though you never went anywhere? Perhaps you made goals but something seemed to hold you back from taking the first step? Many times we are held captive by fear. Fear can manifest in many ways.

Fear of failure. I tried this before but it didn’t go well. I started my plan but didn’t get the results I had hoped for. I’ve seen others try and fail so what makes it any different for me?  This is the fear of failure. It keeps us from launching because we are afraid we’ll fall. However, in “failing”, we often learn our biggest life lessons.

Fear of rejection. Last time I tried something, my supervisor said it was a bad idea. My past relationships ended in a terrible break up or divorce. This can present fear of rejection. We protect our hearts from it happening again by not doing anything. We remain in a cycle.  However, overcoming the rejection allows us to embrace new opportunities and relationships.

Fear of the unknown.  If only I knew what would happen next.  I don’t know if I’ll get the new job and if I do, what if people don’t like me. What if this new business doesn’t work out? What if I lose my job? Fear of not knowing what is to come can be paralyzing. It can keep us from moving forward. However, taking the first step is the catalyst that sets everything in motion. Once we take a step of faith, the rest begins to fall into place.

What fear is holding you back? What keeps you awake at night? Take a moment and say it. Once you’ve spoken it, take a moment and say that you are no longer afraid. You will conquer the fear one step at a time. Find someone who can keep you accountable and go for your dreams.

~Coletta Jones Patterson

Coletta is an author, speaker, life coach and business executive who is passionate about helping others get unstuck. Her book, “Beyond Stuck: Creating the Life You Want” is available in Amazon.

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