Serenity Sunday: Social Media and My Personal Terms of Use


During an interview recently, I was asked if I was a workaholic. My response was, “Not anymore. I know when it’s time to stop working. I am a high-achiever though.”

This is true. I have a natural desire to be productive– it’s something I wake up with in the morning. I set goals for each day and focus my day on meeting those goals. Whether it’s planning a project or planning dinner, I’m making moves from sun-up to sun-down.

In keeping with typical end-of-interview protocol, I was asked about my social media outlets and how people could follow me. It’s totally valid to be asked this question considering social media is a way of doing life and business. I admitted to the interviewer that I mainly use Facebook, but now that I have my own organization, I will be updating my Instagram and LinkedIn  accounts.

The interviewer then asked what my social media personality type was… as you can see– if you clicked on the hyperlink– these types are a real thing. I actually identify with a few of the quirks listed. Perhaps I’m down with the Social Lazies and Inspirers?? I don’t know… All I know is how much I value privacy, life mastery, and time management. So, when it comes to social media, I intentionally suck…

I created a set of rules for myself a couple of years ago…

When social media-ing:

1. Don’t make it your way of life.

2. Let your work speak for you.

3. Raise awareness in a way that makes you feel true to who you are, even if it doesn’t meet society’s advocacy standards.

4. When sharing content across multiple channels, try not to miss the boat when it comes to posting on special occasions or about important topics; and if you do miss the boat, you just miss the boat.

5. Don’t let the opportunity for a good photo dictate your moves. (I’ve had only 4 or 5 different employers post-graduate school and I’m pretty sure I took one of those jobs to finally show the world that I had my own office 🙄.)

6. Strong, intimate relationships are forged by activating your heart, not an account.

7. Treat your platform like a personal archive and information board, that way you don’t obsess over likes and loves.

I want to be super clear, I do not hate social media, but I could do without it. I do, however, love the internet; particularly how resourceful and accessible it is for me as a mom, researcher, writer, and human being who deserves entertainment and leisure. My life revolves around 3 small children. It’s pretty damn chaotic. I need the internet– just for the sheer pleasure of watching videos of Ellen scaring people.

On another note, if you missed last week’s Serenity Sunday, I hope you will give it a read and be sure and watch Ava Duvernay’s When They See Us on Netflix.


Clinnesha is a writer, wife, mom, meta-artist, and social entrepreneur who feels most accountable to southern, black citizen-artists, elders, children, and families. Her work is at the intersection of arts, culture, innovation, and community.


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