What’s Happening Wednesday: Coldest Winter Ever

First let me apologize if you got here and are looking for commentary on the novel by Sister Souljah. I can just about guarantee I will not share my thoughts on that particular work of fiction ever in public. But if you really want to know my thoughts, send me a private message and we can talk.

I am here to literally discuss the weather. It’s cold. Arctic level cold. They have canceled all the schools in the area. (I wouldn’t want my kids out in this mess either, especially my son, who can never find his hat, and rarely has his coat zipped up.)

Anyway, the walk from my parking garage to the building I work in is about 5 minutes. In those 5 minutes, I lost feeling in my toes. I think my legs might have been going numb. I’m not sure if that was because it was cold, or if it was from fatigue from walking so fast to get out of the cold. Either way my body had a negative reaction to today’s extreme temperatures.

I can’t say for sure, but I believe my people were tropical, and this weather is disrespectful to my ancestors. This is the kind of cold that settles in your bones, the kind that requires thawing out. The kind that requires staying in.

They have been telling us to prepare for this “arctic blast” since Sunday. They were actually telling us that they might close the schools today since Sunday morning. That’s unheard of. Gone are the days of waking up early just to see if your district is in the school closing list. Now you get advanced notice. Imagine if everything in our lives had this kind of convenience.

I recently heard Gary Chapman, who wrote the Five Love Languages, has a book about the seasons of marriage. My understanding is that the book discusses the seasons of marriage and how to weather the impending storms.

I have been married for over 16 years. We have survived all the seasons. But you know what? It would have been nice to know that cold fronts were on the horizon. There is no cold like the icyness between two lovers drifting further apart. It’s the kind of cold that settles not in your bones, but in your hearts.

Today i’m praying for married people everywhere, that their hearts and faces be turned to one another. I ‘m praying for long balmy summers and short mild winters. I’m praying that these cold seasons draw you closer together, and that the springs produce the most beautiful fruit and Flowers. Whatever season your marriage is in, know that it is only for a season. Another season is on the way. Prepare for it now.

Mama Radford

P.S. If you are in a unhealthy marriage, seek help immediately. Prayers are not a replacement for, but a supplement to, professional help.

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