Holidays can have a tendency to be times of increased emotional stress for many people. Much of this is due to the way some of us allow ourselves to be swayed into decisions that create stressful situations.
Baby needs the new Lebron XII’s for Christmas even though that means we’ll be short on the December car note.
I need the new iPhone X even though my phone is working fine and the X costs $1,350, almost $60/month I’ve got to come up with on top of my cell phones service plan for TWO YEARS.
Christmas also usually means that my hubby and I are on the road driving to see family who we never get to spend enough time with because we live in Arkansas and they do not.
But not this year.
This year, we were able to host my parents in Arkansas for Christmas and man has it ever been fun!
In the process of this I’ve learned a few things that I’d like to share with those in similar situations like us with core family scattered around the nation and soon world.
1. It’s great to see family during the holidays, but don’t over extended yourself. Vacations are for rest, not wearing yourself out so that you go back to work sick and exhausted.
2. You don’t have to, nor should you, compare your Christmas to other people’s Christmas. Do you!
3. Some family members may have a harder time than others processing the grief of not having present those relatives who are deceased. Be patient and loving with them.
4. Leave yourself some alone time to rest on your vacation. Again, rest.
5. I officially get why some families rotate the hosting of holidays like Christmas. This is a new goal for my family so that we don’t wear out any one branch of our family.
6. Don’t let people pressure you into doing things that make you uncomfortable.
7. If you have trouble processing your emotions during the holiday season, be proactive and get you a service like TalkSpace so that you can have someone help you to manage those emotions.
8. For couples, consider buying gifts that you can both enjoy together like new experiences.
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Marta C. Youngblood is a writer, education and social entrepreneur based in Hot Springs, Arkansas. For more information on her current projects visit https://about.me/MCyoungblood.