Transformative Thursdays: Identity Crisis

As I was riding yesterday, the thought struck me of how dependent we have become on titles and positions.  The more hats we wear and the more balls we juggle seem to indicate our value and worth.  Surely if we’re going 90 miles an hour with our busy schedules then we must be doing something right.  Have you ever felt that way?  I wear many different hats including: wife, mom, employee, friend, business owner, author, motivational speaker, coach and the list goes on.  However, the busyness of life doesn’t always imply we are doing what’s necessary or what is required of us or that we are valuable.  And on the contrary, if we don’t have a lot of titles and positions, it doesn’t imply that we are any less valuable.

Our value comes from knowing who we are and whose we are.  Our primary identity rests in knowing we are God’s child.  We were molded and fashioned by Him and He said “It is good.”  We are enough in Him.  We are sufficient.  We are valuable.  The world tries to tell us that unless we are doing X, Y and Z, we are not valuable.  But there comes a moment, when those “things”—titles, positions, responsibilities, money, etc—will be stripped away and we will see our true value.  It’s wrapped up in Him.  John 15 says, “apart from me, you can do nothing.”  Sometimes, we get a gentle reminder that we are truly dependent upon Him and everything we have and are able to accomplish are only because of Him allowing us to do it.

Once that reality sinks in, it becomes much easier to understand the seasons of life—the seasons where we are abased and the seasons where we abound (Philippians 4:12).  It’s all a part of His master plan.  So if you’ve suddenly hit a wall and it seems as if everything you’ve ever known and believed in is being tested or taken away, you are probably right where He wants you.

~Coletta Jones Patterson

Coletta is an author, life coach, business executive and weekly blogger.  Connect with Coletta at

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