Transformative Thursdays: Being a Square Peg in a Round Hole

Finding the right fit in life is so important.  Sometimes you find yourself being a square peg in a round hole.  There’s nothing wrong with you (the peg) or the situation (the hole) but the two don’t work well.  We may find ourselves at a job that doesn’t fit us or in churches that don’t fit us, or even in relationships that don’t fit us.  It doesn’t make you any less of a person because the fit isn’t right.  It just means you have to find your “round hole”.

I witnessed someone working with my daughter on a project.  She already had a vision of what she wanted to do but the person she was working with had a different vision.  She tried to communicate her vision but was overruled.  Her project became less of hers and more of someone else’s.  Although it started out on the right foot, it quickly ended in frustration and a lack of desire to complete it.  She had become a round peg trying to fit into a square hole.

How many times have you found yourself in a frustrating situation?  Maybe someone had different values and a different method of doing things that clashed with the way you worked.  Or perhaps someone tried to change your idea about something.  While it’s good to hear the viewpoints of others and receive different perspectives, sometimes we still find ourselves in environments that just aren’t conducive to our success.

In order to avoid being a square peg in a round hole, consider this:

  1. Know who you are.
  2. Have a clear vision and purpose.
  3. Know what you stand for and what value you bring to the table.
  4. Know your environment and what it provides or doesn’t provide.
  5. Know your season and what environment is most conducive to your success.

Take the plunge today and evaluate if you’ve found your place.

~Coletta Jones Patterson

Coletta is an author, life coach, business executive and weekly blogger.  Connect with Coletta at

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