Transformative Thursdays: The Day I Realized I’m Not One of “Those Moms”

A few days ago, I was going through my facebook timeline and seeing so many posts of all the different ways moms, grandmoms, and ladies were doing holiday activities with their children or grandchildren.  I saw all kinds of crafts, fun activities, creative cooking projects, and more.  I began to think how could I ever find time to plan those activities in my day.  My brain is already overloaded with work, a business, motherhood, wifehood, church activities, and miscellaneous thoughts I have to process.  After a few moments, I began to think somehow, I hadn’t measured up to be “mom of the year” or “superwoman”.  Then, just as quickly, it hit me.  Many of those moms I was seeing posting pictures, were stay-at-home moms.  I’ve been a stay-at-home-mom for short seasons, so I know you can get a lot done when the children are at school for six hours and you have time to think longer than just 10 minutes on the ride to work, or time to shop and browse new ideas online or leisure time to scan Pinterest.  I don’t have those luxuries most of the time so there’s no need for me to think I can squeeze all of those activities in my day or that my children even expect all of those activities.


In a different season, I could see myself doing those things and maybe more, but I quickly realized, I’m not in that season.  There’s no condemnation.  I’m running a different race that is just as acceptable as the race those moms are running.  I’m not condemning stay-at-home moms or anyone.  What I am saying is that it is so easy for us to become fixated on someone else’s race and think we have to do what they do.  But God has called each of us to run our own unique race—whether that’s working outside the home, working part-time, being a stay-at-home mom or something else.  The bigger question is are we doing what God called us to do in THIS season?  Are we using our gifts and abilities to further His Kingdom?  Are we fulfilling the role(s) God has assigned us to with grace and excellence?


Just as I realized that I’m no “superwoman” or “that mom” who my flesh started saying I should be, I am still a mom and woman who is doing exactly what God called me to do in this season.  I can move forward in freedom knowing I don’t have to answer to anyone else or feel condemned by myself or anyone else because my race is different.


Who are you comparing yourself to?  Take joy and peace today knowing you are on target.  If you’re not on target because you are running someone else’s race, get out of that race and run your own.  Be proud of who God created you to be and enjoy that journey!  I’m not one of “those moms” and I’m okay with that.


~Coletta Jones Patterson

Coletta is an author, life coach, business executive and weekly blogger.  Connect with Coletta at

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