Wow, it been a while since I’ve posted on the blog. Let’s just say that me and seeking medical attention on Mondays became an item during the month of September. But that’s a story for another day.
For the past several weeks I’ve been writing about my perspective on relationships. Marta, our fearless leader, suggested I stay that course for a while and sends me the picture that had the following saying:
“If only the church would prepare men to be husbands, as much as they strive to prepare women to be wives…”
I’ve seen this statement reposted several time on social media over the past couple of weeks. It is an interesting statement loaded with enough commentary to stir up some passionate conversation. I worked in ministry for eight years and as the single employee I would always bring up the fact that “relationship” ministries would always be geared toward marriage couples. The justification often times would be the high number of divorces upon Christian couples. Now I can understand the concern because the family is one of the core foundations of the church. As a single person, my argument would be why not teach me right now about martial relationships instead of waiting until I get married. Show me the foundational structure of marriage which by the way is the model Jesus uses to explain the church relationship with him.
Many churches offer classes and groups for singles but I have found that these settings are heavily attended by women instead of men. That within itself is a problem. I agree that both sexes need to know their biblical roles in a relationship. Both should be taught collectively and individually. But the church should strive harder to engage the single men about their roles as leaders. The burden of the family cannot fall to the woman all the time. That is not how God intended it to be. If so then we have changed a good portion of the book of Genesis (which changes the whole bible).
The church has a responsibility to lead single Christians, male and female, on the right path. I need just as much teaching as my male counterpart.