Transformative Thursdays: How to Give and Receive Criticism

Over the years of planning and executing outreach events and major projects, I’ve received a fair share of criticism.  There are typically four groups of people.  1.  People who have something to say—usually negative—about what you’ve done or not done.  2. People who were genuinely positive about the event.  3. People who had something negative to say (i.e. “you should have done this…” or “what if you had done this”…) and meant well but didn’t jump in to help.  4. People who were negative because they were jealous that they hadn’t come up with the idea first and someone else was getting the praise.

I’ve learned some criticism is good and necessary to improve and grow (I’m the first to believe in giving evaluations and conducting feedback meetings to ensure even greater success.); but there are some people who are only out to tear someone down.  It’s our job to be discerning and know who to receive criticism from and who not to receive it from.

On the other hand, it’s important to give constructive criticism in a proper way.  These are good guidelines for giving criticism. 1. Make sure you have all the facts before you confront someone.  Use first-hand knowledge, not second hand. 2. Be honest, but watch your tone of voice.  3. Offer criticism in a confidential manner.  For example, you may not want to give someone a piece of your mind in a large group.  4. Be honorable and make sure your heart is in the right place.  5. Confront the person in the way you would want to be confronted.

Criticism is necessary but make sure you give and receive it properly.

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