As my coffee pot beeps letting me know my coffee is ready to help wake my neurons, my youngest child has awakened early this morning and has crawled into my lap. My mocha inspired reflections this morning are influenced by a conversation of a half awakened child asking me to pretend to be the momma raccoon in The Kissing Hand (by Audrey Penn). If you are a parent of a preschool or elementary school aged child, I am sure you know about the book we are discussing this early morning. This book is a significant part of every first week back to school, and the many days of the school year for a child who has separation anxiety of the school mornings.
We have a morning routine, no matter what the day holds, of the Kissing Hand. I kiss their little hands, they kiss my hand and we tell each other we love each other. It is a routine that may pass as they get a little older, but it is a reassurance to them that is crucial to their emotional well-being at their current ages. It is part of a routine that works for them to help them achieve peace and security for the day in the world they face (even on our stay at home days.)
The world says produce independent children and young adults, but all too often they leave out the important components of love and the bond that helps to achieve that security of independence. But as the news haunts us each day, especially lately, I believe love and security of home seem all the more important. The reassurance that they have a secure love at home, a strong family bond and parents who strive to build their confidence are just as important as the other daily components of school that teach them how to become educated, successful young adults.
Hug your child today and let the know how important they are to you. It might be the vote of confidence they need for the day. You might find it is the vote of confidence you need, too.